I know that traumatic childhood experiences can influence sexual desires in adulthood. I was spanked as a child, probably to the point of abuse. But, I was never docile about it; I never accepted it as being normal or beneficial in anyway. I had a deep sense of embarrassment about it. It caused me to hate my parents, and instead of being sorry for anything, it always made me more hateful and revenge-seeking.
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We had met a few weeks earlier through a Stanford student group. He was quiet and broad-shouldered. I liked him right away. I was thunderstruck. This obsession felt impossible to share, so I was always hungry for cues that someone could relate. I had long assumed my life partner would share my kink. At 17, I met my first boyfriend while living abroad. His question took my breath away, and our next 18 months were essentially an extension of that first electrified moment.
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Available for download. Not available in stores. The following ISBNs are associated with this title:. ISBN - Look for similar items by category:. The Psychology of Adult Spanking, Vol. Prices and offers may vary in store. For a large number of adults, spanking is a fetish. Like all fetishes, it is repetitively driven, obsessive, and directly connected to sexual arousal. Adults who enjoy spanking, often feel conflicted about their spanking desires.
Spanking looks to be instantly effective. If a child is misbehaving—if he keeps swearing, or playing with matches—and then you spank that child, the behavior stops immediately. The effect is so apparently obvious that it can drive a sort of delusion. Lived experience tends to be more powerful than facts. One of the few memories that many people retain from early childhood is times they were spanked. Some 81 percent of Americans believe spanking is appropriate, even though decades of research have shown it to be both ineffective and harmful. For years, the American Academy of Pediatrics has been warning against spanking, and many countries have laws against it. In the extremely depressing journal Child Abuse and Neglect , researcher Julie Ma and colleagues found that spanking was associated with later aggressive behavior. Ma has previously linked spanking to later antisocial behavior, anxiety, and depression. Then last week The Journal of Pediatrics reported that researchers at the University of Texas found a correlation between corporal punishment as a child and dating violence as an adult.